Ask Sara: What’s Wrong With A Prolonged Fling?

Ask Sara

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I’ve been seeing this guy for three weeks. I keep telling him I’m just interested in a fling, but he says we’ve moved beyond the fling stage and he wants to date seriously. The sex is great. What’s wrong with having a prolonged fling?
Far Flung.


My dear Far Flung,
It sounds like this guy is one terrific sex machine, but you don’t want to take him home for Sunday dinner with the folks. You could of course fling your brains out until you’re bored with him, then tell him to take a hike. But can we go through life with no regard for other peoples feelings? Is this a crutch for you to avoid your own feelings? This kind of behaviour sticks to our shoes like gum and comes back to bite us in the tush. Cut him loose or think about taking the next step.
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Sara Waxman
Sara Waxman is an award-winning restaurant critic, best-selling cookbook author, food and travel journalist and has eaten her way through much of the free world for four decades, while writing about it in books, newspapers and magazines. She is the Publisher/Editor in Chief of DINE and Destinations magazine.