Ask Sara: How Do I Introduce My “Secret” Lover?

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My boyfriend doesn’t know I have a dildo. I’m afraid he’ll freak out and feel threatened. The longer I keep it a secret, the weirder I feel, it’s like I’m having an affair with my dildo. Help.
Secret lover


My dear Secret Lover,
Be bold, you saucy pussy cat. Introduce your boy-toy as an amusement that can be mutually enjoyed. But be sensitive to the fragile male ego. Make sure the dildo that you share with your stud muffin isn’t “larger-than-life.” What you use on your own time however, is your business.
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Sara Waxman
Sara Waxman is an award-winning restaurant critic, best-selling cookbook author, food and travel journalist and has eaten her way through much of the free world for four decades, while writing about it in books, newspapers and magazines. She is the Publisher/Editor in Chief of DINE and Destinations magazine.